What is self-awareness and why should you want to improve yours? According to the Harvard Business Review, self-awareness leads to greater confidence, more creativity, stronger relationships, and better communication.
Self-awareness is described as seeing yourself clearly and understanding the way others see you. Here are ten habits that will help you promote your own self-awareness to improve your life.
Journaling is a great way to find out more about what your subconscious is feeling and thinking. It also allows you to look back and read about your experiences and reactions. Keep track of your emotions, thoughts, and energy levels to learn even more.
Writing things down can also help to get intrusive thoughts out of your head and come up with solutions to problems. Journaling about the following tips on this list can help to clarify who you are and who you want to be.
A very powerful journaling method is the D.A.N.C.E. Journal™, Daring Awareness Nurtures Creativity and Expansion. You can get the D.A.N.C.E. Journal™ Kit as my gift by clicking here.
- Analyze What Triggers You In Others
Sometimes when certain characteristics irk you in other people those are the same behaviors that you subconsciously dislike about yourself. Take note of these traits and do some inner work as to why they are so triggering to you. If you find that they are behaviors that you exhibit as well, work on replacing them with more desirable behaviors.
- Take Constructive Feedback
Ask others for honest feedback about yourself and really listen. On your journey to self-awareness other people might be able to see you more clearly than you see yourself.
Take this feedback and decide if that is how you want to be perceived or if there are things about yourself that you would like to improve upon. Make sure you talk to a variety of people who know you in different facets of your life to get the clearest picture of how others see you.
- Consider The Bad
A key way to gain self-awareness is to reflect on the things wrong in your life. Unhappy or unhealthy relationships, life dis-satisfaction, general unhappiness, etc. Your problems are a reflection of what is going on inside of you.
For example, if your partner cheats but you cannot find your way to leaving that person, this can tell you so much about yourself, including how you feel about yourself, your level of self-respect, that perhaps you don’t believe you deserve anything better and much more. We do not learn nearly as much from the happy parts of our lives as we do from those that are not.
- Be Intentional
Set goals and follow through with them. Becoming more self-aware entails being more intentional with your actions and your thoughts. Understanding why you set a goal can be as important as the goal itself. Discover the motivation behind the goals and use that to keep you on track and determined to achieve them.
Say your goal is to reach a certain income level and the motivation behind it is serving more people while creating financial security for you and your family. Focusing on the motivation keeps you aware of how important that goal is to you and will help keep you accountable.
- Determine Your Core Values
One of the main actions that can help you promote self-awareness is determining your core values.
What does everything come back to for you? What means the most to you in relationships, your career, and your everyday life?
It’s easy to lose sight of those most important values in your day-to-day life so try to focus on them to accomplish more meaningful goals.
Allow your core values to factor into all of the decisions you make, especially the most significant ones that could also affect other people.
- Expand Your Comfort Zone
Promote self-awareness by expanding your comfort zone and finding new things that can add to your life. Get in the habit of saying yes to new opportunities. Travel, learn something, meet people. The more you try the more you will find out about yourself. There are so many experiences to be had that you won’t find just repeating the same routine day after day.
Mindfulness improves your awareness of the present moment. It can also help you discover what you really want out of life. The American Psychological Association found that mindfulness improves focus and memory, reduces stress, improves relationship satisfaction, and enhances self-insight, morality and intuition. Being able to access self-insight, morality, and intuition is one way to find out what you value the most.
- Be an Active Listener
Self-aware people often find themselves listening more than they talk. It is important to them to be present and actively listen to conversations. Hold your judgements and opinions and just listen to others and you’ll be surprised by what you can learn.
Commonslibrary.org points out that active listening is disturbed by imposing your own beliefs or attitudes on others. This can be avoided by becoming more self-aware and stopping yourself when you are about to interject your own biases.
- Be Honest with Yourself
Be honest with yourself about your strengths and your weaknesses. Being self-aware is impossible if you are not honest with yourself.
According to academia.edu there are a few steps you can take to try to improve your self-honesty: consider the possibility that you may be wrong, do not automatically close yourself off to viewpoints that you disagree with, look for evidence, listen to people you can trust.
These tips can help you be more honest with yourself and promote self-awareness in the long run.
If you are really looking to learn more about yourself and how others see you, the tips above are a great place to start. Employ a few of these suggestions for a few weeks and you will understand more about why you and others behave the way that you do.
Use your new and improved self-awareness to be a better partner, leader, parent, friend, or whatever you set out to become. Creating new habits are a fine way to achieve personal growth in all areas of your life.
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